Finding time or making time


"I can't find time for______."

I don't know about you, but I know I say this quite a bit. I have a list of tasks and this particular lists seems to always get longer without anything coming off of it. I have ambition to check things off, but I seem to always miss the mark when I attempt to do them. Something comes up, something takes higher priority, or I tell myself I don't feel like it. 

What I am trying to do is find time. I am trying to find a place amidst all other things to do this thing. I look at what is already going on and find any place I can to insert this additional task.

The problem is all the things already going on have an evolutionary nature: they grow, develop, and change in demand. One of the most brilliant sayings I have ever heard is, "It is easy to obtain things: it is much harder to maintain them." 

I like to illustrate this with my first car. Obtaining it was as simple as finding it and having the $1000 to purchase it. Yes, my first car was a 1989 Honda Civic Si Hatchback with 150,000 miles, rusty doors, and torn seats. But it was mine: I obtained it.

Once I had it, however, I had to change the oil, rotate the tires, and other routine maintenance, along with fixing some of its major problems. The routine things had to be done regularly, and once I fixed one major thing, I had another one coming up.

Life is like this. We have things we need to do for regular maintenance: eat, sleep train, work, spend time with family, rest. We also have major things that come up. Most major things involve some sort of change, and have a lot more behind them than the initial event. Example: changing jobs means learning a new system of operation, potentially a new schedule, and lifestyle adjustments based on changes in pay, vacation days, insurance, etc.. 

Inside of these, we have additional things we want to do. These additional things will not get done by trying to find time. We have to make time.

In order to guarantee we do something, we have to choose it over all other things. So whether we use a physical calendar, planner, note card, or phone to schedule, we have to make a place for the things we do. My first car would not have lasted very long if I had not made time to replace the brakes, redo the rusty doors, get new paint, replace the air filter, clean the intake manifold, and replace the rusted out exhaust. 

So when we tell ourselves we can't find time, we need to realize we are not making an attempt to do whatever it is we are talking about. We really should say "I don't want to make time."

The reason I posted the picture of me mobilizing my hip while on the computer is I found myself constantly using the computer while sitting and complaining about the quality of my hip movement. So I was complaining about something but I wasn't doing anything to change it. 

Let me be upfront: the picture was the first time I did this setup while using the computer and mobilizing the hip. The real question is will I continually make time for it so that one day it is a habit I no longer think about doing. Developing the habit is the real win. 

So make time for those things on your list, and do them until they are habits. Wash, rinse, repeat.